EXHORTATION. 1st Timothy 5:1. Older men should not be ignored or rebuked, even if they need correction for foolish behavior. Gentle, sincere encouragement is more effective than harsh condemnation. Discreet admonition carries a certain authority that reminds older men of their role and responsibilities in God's family.
Speaking the truth in a way that wins the man's trust while still saying what needs to be said requires careful thought. An elder's role in the assembly of God’s people grants him the right to our respect, even if decisions sometimes have flaws. To guide the flock and uphold God's truth in the public testimony of the assembly requires a man of grace in everything he says and does. His work will demonstrate to everyone in the fellowship that God has called him to shepherd and lead us.
Many saints who look to him will want his choices to favor them, but he will make it clear that the work he is given has a higher claim. He must speak for God and provide his counsel based on the scriptures in the Bible. He is indeed a shepherd, but he has not been granted the right to act unfairly or secretly behind the back of God’s people. The day will come when he must give an account to the Chief Shepherd of the flock, and his decisions are like an open book in the Master’s eyes.
What he truly needs from us are sincere prayers that he, along with others involved in the work he shares, will all be protected from the snares of the devil through the intercession of those in God's family. To rebuke this man would be wrong, for even though he appears confident in his work, he might need someone to stand with him, encourage him, and gently let him know how his actions and words are perceived. He is not perfect, and there will likely be times when he is open to change, and some may doubt his credibility because he occasionally makes mistakes.
It is clear that he needs support, prayers, and faithful deeds from those he cares for and feeds with the word of God, not rebuke. I can honor him even when I know that decisions are sometimes slow and that he, along with his peers, doesn’t always know where to go or what decisions to make for the good of the flock. When the Spirit raised him to pastor them, who are God’s own flock and belong to Him, I am obligated to follow, support him, and obey God’s Word.
A loving son does not diminish his father's dignity but, with love and courtesy, clarifies what must change or be done to preserve one's integrity and reputation. This approach is similar to how a younger brother treats his older brothers. His attitude and actions toward his younger brothers should also reflect this. He should not be patronizing or act superior, but instead treat his brother in a Christ-like manner, as expected from brothers who have his highest good in mind. Candor is often appreciated among equals, especially when dealing with matters that can bring about change rather than accusations.