1st Timothy 5:11-15. “But the younger widows refuse: for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ, they will marry; having damnation, because they have cast off their first faith. And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not. I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. For some are already turned aside after Satan.” BRINGING REPROACH. There are those who have expectations that have nothing to do with faith. For reasons known only to them and God, they adopt a sorrowful face So, there will be pity shown to them, although they have different plans – The object apparently is to want to marry if they can.
In itself, that is not wrong, but there are dangers to watch for – A person who causes dissension and gossip is not to be in the number. The agenda they apparently have is to put themselves up and others down – Soon, their reputation as busybodies will be known all over town.
When there is an opportunity, it is alright to seek another to marry. There are some dangers to look out for – some people of whom to be wary. The assembly should be ready to meet the needs of those who are really older. But those who are younger, we can help to learn their own burdens to shoulder.
The attitude of a child of God should be that they may bring God glory – And not bring reproach on the testimony with some gossip and a story. Faith can be seen in the actions one takes in the difficulties of life. A person who blesses other people will be a suitable wife.
Whether it be a man or a woman who has lost a spouse, this we should expect – They will wait upon the Lord to guide them to the person God wants them to wed. During those waiting times, there is no doubt that there is an expectation – Or a measure of entitlement given to them in their current situation.
By waiting on God and guarding oneself lest one be carried away by emotion – God is able to trust us to rest in Him, He being the object of our devotion. When the person He chooses is sent by Him to be the one to marry Then we can rest assured that person is the one we the rest of our life can share in.
“Father God, there are a few of these younger believers I know who have been widowed. Hear my prayer on their behalf and give them the husband or wife of Thy choosing. In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, Amen.”