COMMANDMENT WITH PROMISE. Ephesians 6:2-3. “Honor thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; that it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.” From the highest possible source comes a word to live by – a “promise” that is compelling, inspiring us with visions of the future. That promise is authoritative, assuring us with the integrity of God's own word that what He commands leads to the reward of life itself. The terms are within everyone's reach – “honor.” Respect without hypocrisy, deceit, and guile; eyes that can honestly look into another's give honor. Dignity is freely given because of who they are and who we are; reverence for those who have faced hardships and who have “been there” grants honor.
The effort to be expended is not in some faraway place but is directed toward "father and mother.” Flesh and blood have rights, responsibilities, and reasonable expectations. Parental authority doesn’t end: it evolves—into advice, suggestions, and insights—and the ties remain for a lifetime. They will always be your father and mother in both good times and bad. The people addressed are the saints and the faithful in Christ Jesus. They should never be ignored. God does not ignore them but recognizes their role in the family unit He originally designed for our good. Actions and attitudes are seen by God and acknowledged for what they truly are. Families originate in the mind and heart of God, so honor your earthly parents and your heavenly Father.
Being held in high esteem by those who are flesh and blood often seems automatic. However, some family situations can cause hesitation. This command is issued despite past events. It’s a reminder that clashes between generations appear unavoidable. Am I supposed to honor parents who are less educated than their children? Yes – they have learned in different ways. Am I supposed to honor parents who are poor and I am well-off? Yes – wealth does not earn honor.
Honor is the right of those who have children. We may not always agree, but we should always honor our parents. Even when time weakens some of the close bonds we once had, honor still remains due. The opinions of older generations may not advance as quickly as those of the younger, but we are still to show them respect. The older folks might feel uncomfortable with much of what you do and may even challenge or complain, but honor remains their right.