1st Peter 3:1. “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they may also without the word be won by the conversation of the wives.” WITHOUT THE WORD. A lot of things can reach the heart without a word to say Silence comes quite easily when a person bows to pray. The watching eyes receive a message – “I’m not the only one Who is in her life since the time she said she is new born.”
Facial expressions send a message of joy or quiet calm. Such simple glory tells a truth just like a hymn or psalm. “She has pressures too – she is putting up with me – But she has a higher view of things it is very plain to see.”
Her demeanor of contentment speaks volumes to her husband – He can’t mistake the fact her life seems very blended. She loves her children and her husband – loves her Lord as well- She lives her life in a Christ-like way to turn those she loves from hell.
Subject to his leadership, she doesn’t usurp his role – She knows her subjection unto him reaches down into his soul. He appreciates her ways and often she may not say a thing – Submitting, that some day to the Savior her husband she will bring.
Graceful living for God is more than just a form. To a watching, wondering husband, she lives for God at home. Who knows what simple act or the attitude she displays – Will be the one thing that is needed as in the future he will praise.
“O God, many of the Lord’s people live in divided homes. Please help our sisters and brothers to be like Christ before their loved ones. In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, Amen.”
"Without a word be won" means simply "to make a profit" as in a business transaction. This gain means to win a person without guile, without threats, without reviling - even without words. This promise must have been directed towards those believers who became Christians after they were married. Christians are instructed to not be "unequally yoked together with unbelievers." Christians who go against revealed truth have no claim on an answer. God is forgiving, and in mercy may answer in a positive way in spite of our disobedience.
The godly motive is to win a loved one to Christ, not make demands that create resentment and barriers. Godly submission involves respectful behavior that displays reverence toward God and true humility. Moral purity can not be hidden. Reverence toward God and suitability as a true helper of her husband make an undeniable impression. The principle of modesty in dress still reveals the value of one's character rather than the physical attributes on display. Exhibiting elaborate jewelry, hairstyles and going to extremes of dress to attract attention is not consistent with the conduct our Lord expects of both men and women. The primary beauty of a child of God is in the heart and is seen without attracting attention to the head, the neck or the body.