1st Timothy 3:5. “(For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)” RULE. There has to be guide lines in every social frame – Whether it be in nations or with those who bear my name. But guiding isn’t with a clench`ed fist that bows them down in fear Ruling involves an open hand applying pressure here and there.
Order makes things work together – people or machines. When a wrench is put in the works, things stop and people scream For the obstacle to be removed so that order once again Can function among all the different parts and unity is maintained.
Perhaps “rule” is best understood by using a different word – For “managing” the family is what is needed by its appointed head. Compassionate care means the children grasp when their father says, “No” He understands from experience a lot of things they don’t know.
A leader in a family – just the same as in a church, Knows the value of preventive discipline and how to help them in the search For truth in the pages of scripture that helps the children live – These kinds of characteristics are the best things he can give.
If these are recognized at home and the children show respect – In the local fellowship people will know and follow his leadership. There are things about church life that are similar to homes – And the evidence in a family assures the saints he cares for them.
“Father, today I will be the most audible spokesperson at the meetings of the assembly. One brother is sick and won’t be out, and another is limited in his ability to communicate on behalf of the assembly. I pray this morning for special help and guidance by the Holy Spirit to be ready to express Thy will and Thy Word in a way that will bring honor to Thy name. In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, Amen.”
The leader in an assembly must “Not be contentious, not looking for a fight.” (C.H. Spurgeon). He is not a violent person, nor is he inclined towards being demanding and provocative, or quarrelsome no matter who he is with. He can take the pressure of being maligned and mocked without retaliation. The temptation by being given opportunities to get rich quick, do not move him from his work because he is not greedy of filthy lucre. Covetousness erodes character and steals time from one who is contented, patient and reasonable. It is important that he be patient in his spirit and willing to forfeit his rights. A gentle person is a listener, can take criticism, and permits others to serve. He is a peacemaker, not one who is short tempered and can disagree without being disagreeable. He is satisfied with what he has, so is not covetous, not overly concerned about money, popularity, fame and advancement. A godly family man is consistent at home and in the church. He “presides over…”; “takes care of…” his family and the Lord's people like one would care for an injured man, like in the story of the good Samaritan.